Many of us have big dreams. Big ideas. If you have the personality of an entrepreneur, chances are that your mind goes nonstop. It is flooded with thoughts and ways you could be your own boss, make tons of money, and do what you love.

Entrepreneurship is definitely not easy, and over time it is built through successes and failures alike. Any smart business mind will tell you that business failures teach you what to do/not do next.

But oftentimes, we can become crippled by the thoughts of failure in our personal lives. This is especially if we are still licking our wounds over a significant “failure.”

Entrepreneurial ideas, hopes and dreams can end up pushed to the back burner, once again, hoping “the right time” is going to surface.

But you can’t base your success as an entrepreneur solely on your successes in other areas of your life.

Plain and simple.

Here’s why:

Remember That You Can’t Control Everything

Sometimes in our lives, we experience failure. That’s life. Without a failure here and there, how could we possibly comprehend success? How would be know what works and what doesn’t? We wouldn’t. We need failure to be successful.

There is a lesson in every single situation, and how you choose to learn from “failures” determines your true success not only in business but also in life.

Sometimes Relationships Don’t Work Out

Most of us have already experienced a failed relationship, or more. And by relationships, I also mean friendships as well as marriages/romantic partnership.

When you look at what happened, ask yourself: How much of that was really your fault? Even when you do everything right, you can’t control another human being. You can’t predict changes in another person either. And if you were the reason for the demise in your personal relationships, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a successful business. Most of the time when a relationship doesn’t work out, both parties share some part of the blame.

And sometimes, people simply don’t change together or things just don’t work out. We all change as we grow older.

The bottom line is that we have to learn from our experiences – both good and bad. Your relationship status doesn’t determine your capability for entrepreneurial bliss.

Health Issues Don’t Determine Your Success

Health issues are no different. Your health status absolutely does not determine your success as an entrepreneur. Some health circumstances, like diabetes and hypertension, put us in the driver’s seat and for the most part we can control them. That’s pretty much up to you and how well you maintain a healthy lifestyle.

Unfortunately, we can’t control everything related to our health. At any point we could be hit with a diagnosis that seems to bring us to our knees. Instead of looking at the diagnosis like a death sentence, we can choose to make the best of the time we have left on this planet.

Stephen Hawking surely didn’t let ALS control his success. What’s more, many people with health issues and disabilities use that as their very platform for success. They are able to impact the world positively while achieving success at the same time.

Financial Problems Do Not Have to Stop You

Finally, if you’ve got money problems, don’t let that crush your dream. There’s a big difference in poor money management and lack of money. If you have difficulty managing your money, it’s not the end of the world. Hire someone to handle that aspect of the business for you or teach/train yourself to be better.

Most self-made entrepreneurs started out financially poor, and used that to motivate them.

But even if you are great with finances, there’s no way to predict some setbacks. Unexpected expenses can hit without a moments notice, and sometimes we aren’t prepared to shell out the additional dough. Even when you have to dip into your rainy-day fund to pay off a credit card or medical bill, don’t let that deter you from your goals as an entrepreneur.

Failing to have the necessary resources for the unexpected is hardly a reason to give up.

So what SHOULD you focus on?

#1 Forgive Your Fears

If you dream of being a successful solo entrepreneur, you are the only one who can make it happen. Sometimes fear of the unknown is crippling and we end up pushing our dreams further and further out of reach just to be “on the safe side”.

Forgive yourself for your fears. It’s normal. Reaching for the stars can be unnerving, especially when you’ve also got to balance your dream of being an entrepreneur with your other responsibilities. Embrace your power for success and never stop pushing forward. Really, the only failure is in not trying.

#2 Forgive Your Mistakes

Expecting yourself to never make any mistakes in life is ludicrous. We all make them, because we are HUMAN. Don’t hold onto them and allow them to cripple your potential success. Forgive yourself, and choose instead to look at the lesson.

One of the things that I have learned to say to myself after a mistake is this:

“Well, that didn’t work. I’ll try something else.”

Being able to forgive and move onto the next thing is the key to not letting your mistakes hold you back.

#3 Nurture Your Good Qualities & Focus On The Positive

Are you spending too much time focusing on failure? Only you can answer that question, but if you’re using other failures as the reason you aren’t going for the gusto, the answer is probably yes. The honest truth is you are fueling the wrong fire.

Instead of coming up with excuses why something won’t work, spend more time nurturing your good qualities that will bring you success. Build up your confidence and truly believe in your capability to make every single dream of yours come to fruition.

Instead of focusing so much on supposed “failures,” instead focus on the lesson learned. I smart man once said “there are no failures – only lessons.” That statement has stuck with me, because it reminds me to focus on what I can move forward with.

One good thing about these lessons is how they build our resilience. Mistakes are inevitable.

Learn from them.

Failure can be a dream crusher, or it can be a stepping stone. You decide.